As I thought about it for the last few days, I realized lifestyle design requires quite a bit more than just setting a goal of a certain lifestyle and setting out to achieve it. It requires being a certain type of person.
So, in no particular order here are some of my thoughts on personality traits you need for effective lifestyle design.
1. Remember Names.
In the guide I wrote on How To Get Free Drinks And Get Treated Like A VIP Everywhere You Go, I shared one of my greatest tips which was to remember names.
Remembering names is one of those things most people aren’t good at. How often do you hear a person say “I’m sorry, I’m really bad with names.” If you’re not that person then you’re automatically a notch above the average person in terms of charisma.
Ask people their names whether it’s your waitress, cab driver or any other person you’re interacting with. If it’s in a hospitality environment where people have name tags, then address people by their name. Make them feel like a human who’s on the same level, not somebody who’s serving you, and you’ll be amazed.
2. Treat everybody like a VIP.
One key component of lifestyle design is treating everybody like a VIP. I’m guessing VIP treatment is something we’d all like built into our lifestyle. Remember that golden rule from elementary school “treat others the way you want to be treated.”
I’ve noticed that when you treat anybody in your environment like a VIP, whether it’s a waiter, new friend in a group, or anybody else, they’ll reciprocate treatment. This is one of those things that results in a lot unexplainable perks in your life.
3. Be outgoing.
If you think you can be a recluse or a social outcast and somehow design an amazing lifestyle, good luck. Designing a lifestyle requires many moving parts, most of which are other people. If you’re not outgoing or friendly it’s going to be a challenge.
Let’s say you get to the foreign country that you’ve been dreaming of living in and you’re anti-social; you’re going to be pretty miserable. If you’re outgoing then you’re going to open yourself up to a world of interesting experiences and opportunities.
4. Radiate Good Energy.
You’ve likely heard the saying that 90% of communication is non-verbal. There is so much truth to this. I was recently coaching a client on his public speaking skills and one thing I was telling him is that whatever you feel on the inside is going to be conveyed regardless of the words coming out your mouth. Like attracts like and good energy draws people to you along with positive experiences.
5. Be Agreeable.
Nobody likes a person who is really argumentative. Argumentative people are really good at eventually alienating everybody around them because it’s impossible to have a conversation with them. The idea is to be the kind of person people want to be around.
6. Become a connector.
This is one of my personal favorites. I even wrote two posts over at The Skool of Life called How to become a connector and how to become a connector part II: World Domination. If you haven’t read Malcolm Gladwell’s book, The Tipping Point, I highly recommend you do.
Let me explain the concept of a connector just in case you’re unclear. If you analyze your forty closest friends and see how they all connect, you’ll always come back to the same three people. Basically, these people are the ones that know a lot of people and have a very special skill.
Guess what? Anybody can become a connector. Once you do, you’ll open up another world of possibilities.
7. Be Flexible.
No matter what you’re after in your life, flexibility is the key. You have to adjust to the inevitable ebb and flow that is part of life. Sometimes bad things happen and you have to choose how to react. Other times you may have to adjust your goals to fit in to where you are currently at in your life.
As you take a closer look at lifestyle design, you’ll see that incorporating certain personality traits will make it easier and much faster to reach your lifestyle design goals.